My first introduction to Tim Kreider was on a book podcast where he was the guest author. Right away he told a story about a performance art exhibit he attended at the MOMA. The piece featured a live, nude woman, and the art
made eye contact with passers-by, probably to send a message about the power of gaze. Well Tim was no match for it, and he fled the exhibit. But on his second visit, he decided he would not quail and planted himself in front of the art, making eye contact
with the model for 20 minutes. This connection was broken only when she stepped down
to be replaced by a different model. In this interview, Tim said he felt as though
he knew the woman intimately after that experience, better than he would if they had gone on a date, which led to a conversation about the inherently empty nature of first-date conversations.
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| A noble pursuit. |
I paused the podcast and put his book on hold at the
library. I could tell that Tim was, as the protagonist of Sara
Levine’s Treasure Island!!! might put
it, “a noticing kind of person.” And I wanted to see what else he had noticed.
We Learn Nothing is
a collection of essays intermixed with occasional cartoons (Tim’s also a
satirical cartoonist). There’s no theme per se, but each essay begins on the
premise of a personal anecdote and then almost imperceptibly pans out to reveal a larger, shared human experience.
One of my favorites, “When They’re Not Assholes,” starts out
as Tim’s fairly predictable jaunt crashing a Tea Party
rally (“At first glance, the crowd at the Tax Day rally unhelpfully confirmed
all my snottiest liberal stereotypes about conservatives.”) but ends up as an
insightful analysis of the enmity between two political extremes.
Red and Blue bash each other with the hysterical homophobia of the closeted because we recognize in each other our most loathed secret selves. We’re the Red States’ feckless, ineffectual, faggy compassionate side that they like to think they’ve successfully quashed, just as they . . . are our more credulous and aggressive selves, whom we’re too inhibited to own up to. . . . We are one another’s political Shadows. We may hate each other, but let’s at least quit pretending we hate hating each other; we love hating each other.
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| LET'S YELL SOME MORE UNTIL WE FIGURE IT OUT. |
Taking on a completely different subject, “An Insult to the Brain” provides a
literary analysis of The Life and
Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman, interweaves that with a mother/son story, and
concludes it all with a boy-and-his-dog moment that made the backs of my eyeballs
prickly.
And the other essays diverge just as widely as these two in their subject matter.
And the other essays diverge just as widely as these two in their subject matter.
This book found me right in the middle of a season where interacting with those I don’t agree
with is so distressing that I
flinch at exchanges that could make me a more informed and
compassionate person. Either my emotions get in the way of my reasoning skills or I have one too many drinks and make a spectacular argument that no one hears
because bars are NOISY and drunk people don’t usually care about birth control
in more than just the immediate sense that it might come in handy in a few
hours. (What? No . . . that didn’t just happen to me. I like to be specific
with my examples, is all.)
I didn't always agree with Tim Kreider, but I could always relate with him. AND I was able to discuss portions of his
Tea Party essay with my politically conservative mother without either of us
yelling or crying.
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| Right. Good. Baby steps. |
